We’ve all had those moments in life when pressures have mounted, problems have multiplied, stress is overwhelming, and our greatest impulse is to cut and run away! If you have ever felt like that in the past or fighting the urge in the present, please pay attention because I would like to touch the heart of the issue of wanting to “Abandon Ship.”

Know this: Avoiding the problem does not solve the problem.

There have been times in my life when I tried to avoid specific responsibilities or challenges. Funny thing though, avoiding a problem does not solve it but almost always makes it worse. You think I would learn! Well, actually over the years I have gotten a little better.

Most people do not like conflict. Avoiding conflict does not reduce tension; sometimes, it intensifies it. Issues become greater, resentment develops, people become disconnected, and thoughts run wild. Individuals begin to feel powerless to solve their problems and reluctant to deal with the conflict. Good ideas remain unspoken, and loved ones do not get the information they need because everyone is afraid to bring up potentially contentious issues.

Avoiding problems becomes hugely detrimental to your professional and personal relationships. Think about it: have you ever been around someone who was frustrated or angry, but does not want to talk about it? They ooze resentment. 

Confronting and handling an issue is not the worst thing in the world, but letting one go unresolved can cause you big problems for you and everyone around you. Therefore, I want to encourage you to not run away from your problems, to have difficult conversations, and face your issues head-on. It’s kind of like peeling an onion; every time you face your challenges, you are removing one layer at a time. Furthermore, here is some good news: God is with you, and He is for you. God will give you the words and wisdom that will cause your problems to crumble and fall, and you will experience the peace of His wisdom and blessing.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” John 14:27

BY: Tony Warrick, Th. D

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